Right Person, Wrong Time

This article is based on the Reimagining Love podcast episode “Right Person, Wrong Time” To listen to this episode, click here.


Welcome back to the blog! Today, I want to spend some time talking with you about an expression that gets thrown around a lot by people who are in the dating world… and by the people who love them. That expression is, “Right person, wrong time.” This is one of those phrases that gets shared as if it’s a conclusion or a declaration when really it is an invitation into a far more nuanced set of reflections:

  • About how we size up the goodness-of-fit of a potential partner
  • About how the larger contexts of our lives shapes our readiness for intimacy
  • About what larger beliefs undergird our quest for love
  • About what motivates us to prioritize partnership… or what blocks us from prioritizing it!

In this article, I am going to use the tools of Relational Self-Awareness to unpack this notion of “right person, wrong time” and offer you a deepened and more nuanced perspective on intimacy, timing, and assessing goodness-of-fit. I am going to talk about:

  1. Romantic myths that might be the driving force behind this idea.
  2. The power of narrative and how the way we tell our love stories shapes how we experience them.
  3. Stage of life and how that affects how we prioritize intimate partnership.
  4. Deeper fears or wounds that might be closing us off to intimacy.

If you are in a situationship and you’re having that “right person, wrong time” feeling, this article is not going to tell you whether to dig in or end it. Relationship dynamics are complex and they defy simple answers. This article is going to give you food for thought intended to help you sit with more complexity in the service of your own clarity. I want you to have the resources you need and deserve as you meditate on and muddle through your own situation. It seems paradoxical that adding layers can help you feel more decisive. But I trust that as I talk you through the relationship dynamics that can fuel this “right person, wrong time” notion, you are going to reflect on your situation. I also trust that this discussion will shift your thoughts and your feelings and then your behavior. I can imagine this article helping you do one of the following:

  1. Feel more confident about either asking the person for a bit of patience while you figure out what’s happening on your end in terms of timing.
  2. Feel more confident shifting priorities in your life to open up more space for this relationship to take root.
  3. Feel a bit more at peace about beginning to let this person go… or continuing the work of letting this person go.

And if you’re the one who is being told that you are the right person but that you have popped into someone’s life at the wrong time, this conversation is going to help that notion make more sense and I think this will give you a bit more capacity to accept a reality that is likely frustrating and disheartening for you.

Caveat

One caveat before we dive in. I am using the term “right person, wrong time” because that’s the language that is out there, but this is not an expression you’re ever going to hear me use. I rarely, unless I am talking about situations of abuse or neglect, use binary language like right/wrong, good/bad, always/never. Relationship dynamics are too complicated for simplistic frameworks, and I just don’t find it helpful to think about someone as being either right for us or wrong for us. A relationship is a story and choosing a partner is choosing a co-author. Life with Partner A will offer you a life marked by a particular set of themes, characters, tensions, conflicts, turning points, and lessons. Life with Partner B will offer you a life marked with a different set of themes, characters, tensions, conflicts, turning points, and lessons. I am not saying that your choice of partner doesn’t matter, because obviously it does. We just need to be more thoughtful than sticking right/wrong labels onto people.

Cultural Mythology

If we are going to break down what it means when someone says, “right person, wrong time,” you know I’m going to want us to consider the impact of romanticized cultural myths—this is because how we are socialized around love affects how we love. So let’s try to figure out the particular set of cultural myths that might be driving a declaration of “right person, wrong time.” Let’s imagine a scenario: Bethany says to her dad, “I just don’t know about this person I have been dating. I think it might be a case of ‘right person, wrong time.’” Her dad responds, “Well you know, Bethany, if she’s the one, timing shouldn’t matter.”  Bethany’s dad’s response is really a triple whammy:

  1. He is missing an opportunity to offer validation and empathy (something along the lines of, “Relationships are hard and ever so messy!”)
  2. He is reinforcing the idea that there is such a thing as “the One.”
  3. He is reinforcing the idea that when it’s right, anxiety melts away, leaving only clarity and a direct route to happily ever after.

The romanticized idea is that if this person is ‘The One,’ then the rest of your priorities will fall into place so that this relationship will work. By extension, the fact that you are not rearranging your life so that this relationship is possible then becomes evidence that this person therefore is not ‘The One.’

I have compassion for this train of thought because it has a kind of logic to it. There’s a promise of clarity (“When you know, you know”!). However, this train of thought is ultimately far too simplistic for my taste. It simplifies relationships rather than asking us to sit ever-more-comfortably in paradox and nuance.

Although Bethany’s dad, in our hypothetical example, didn’t use the “S-word,” soulmate, that idea also hangs out in this particular realm of mythology. If you read my first book, Loving Bravely, you know that I teased apart a few definitions of soulmate and shared with you my favorite one. One common definition of soulmate is that your soulmate is your perfect match. Research has found that when you define your soulmate as your perfect match, you are more likely to experience heightened conflict and you are even more likely to break up. Why? Because of cognitive dissonance. How can you possibly struggle to see eye to eye when you are supposed to be deeply aligned? How could you possibly fight over money or sex or how to spend your free time if this person is ‘The One’?

Let me give you another definition of soulmates directly from the Loving Bravely book: “The Yiddish word for soulmate is bashert, and the belief here is that, before birth, God decides who your spouse will be—a ‘match made in heaven.’ The soul is split and inhabits two bodies. Soulmates find each other, and the wedding is the joining, or rejoining, of souls. According to this belief, your spouse really is your other half (maybe even your better half?), and Tom Cruise’s words to Renée Zellweger in the film Jerry Maguire fit here: ‘You complete me.’ When my students explore this definition, they initially express despair: ‘What if I live in New York and my bashert lives in New Zealand?’ Those who practice from this belief story must also have faith that destiny or divine assistance will lead them to each other’s arms. Belief in bashert serves as a vessel that buoys a couple during their journey of love. Couples who share a story that their union was created and is supported by a force bigger than them feel a sense of comfort, connection, and meaning.”

I much prefer a definition of soulmates that says that soulmates are made, not born. That someone becomes our soulmate. There’s a beautiful quote from relationship educator, Diane Sollee that goes like this: People think that they have to find their soulmate to have a good marriage. Anyone you meet already has soulmates: their mother, their father, their lifelong friends. You get married, and after twenty years of loving, bearing, and raising kids, and meeting challenges, you’ll ‘create’ your soulmate.”  This perspective takes some of the pressure off. You don’t have to know whether they are your soulmate by the second date! What matters is whether this person is a worthy travel companionsomeone with whom you can build what M. Scott Peck calls, “a relationship of constancy.” 

In the Loving Bravely book, I also share the idea that a soulmate is a wake up call. As Liz Gilbert writes in Eat, Pray, Love, “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.”  This description of soulmates really fits with the work of Relational Self-Awareness, doesn’t it? That love is a classroom. That it is through relationships that we grow, evolve, and hopefully, heal! 

So, I am giving you permission, even encouragement, to let go of the romanticized cultural mythology that if this person is the “right” person, everything magically falls into place in terms of timing, and that therefore, by extension, if you’re having a difficult time figuring out how to get this relationship off the ground, then it must mean they are not the right person. Because relationships are messy…. Life is messy… Tricky timing doesn’t have to be a poor prognostic indicator!

Before we move on, I want to highlight one more piece from our Bethany example. Depending on the relationship that Bethany has with her father, his words (“Well you know, Bethany, if she’s the one, timing shouldn’t matter”) might land quite deeply for her. His hot take, that she should just know, might have the power to take her from unsure to doubtful. Reminder for those of us who love people who are dating, watch your words. Follow your loved one’s lead. Certainly if you see a pattern of worrisome behavior, you can find a thoughtful and circumspect way to bring it up. But otherwise, keep your hot takes to yourselves. Especially if your hot takes are based on simplistic notions of how you think love should look.

The Power of Narrative

This segues us naturally to talking about how powerful our stories are—the stories we live by and the stories we love by. My students hear me repeat these words, year after year, “Narrative trumps data.” However, the notion that “narrative trumps data” helps us think about how it’s not just the facts that matter, it’s the meaning we make. We make meaning based on (A) how any given moment feels to us and (B) our prior experiences. Our prior experiences become the pair of glasses so to speak through which we assess the goodness of fit with this potential partner. Our prior experiences shape the story we tell about the relationship. 

Our pair of glasses amplifies some bits of data and mutes other bits of data so that the story we tell is based more on our subjective truth rather than some abstract objective truth. This is neither a good thing nor a bad thing. It’s just a thing. It’s why every couples therapist knows the feeling of listening to partners tell the story of something that happened and wondering if the two of them were even in the same room at the same time! Memory is deeply imperfect and we are all at risk of holding onto the data points that fit with our narrative or confirm our fears or prove our point. Because Relational Self-Awareness helps us heal past wounds, deconstruct cultural myths, and understand our patterns, this work you do week after week for sure helps you “see” more clearly. And, we need to always be checking in with ourselves and our partners about the meaning we are making. For example, if our partner cancels plans with us, we can say something like, “When you flaked on plans last Friday, I took it really personally and felt like I wasn’t much of a priority to you.” This gives our partner the opportunity to add context (“I am so sorry. I was really distracted by work and didn’t take your feelings enough into consideration”) and to remedy (“Can we please go out tonight or tomorrow night so I can make it up to you?”)

Because we write our narratives, we can rewrite our narratives, and sometimes we do that to align with the outcome of the relationship. Dr. John Gottman has researched the sequence of events that leads a couple to divorce, and one of his findings is that when someone is facing divorce, they tend to retell the story of the relationship in a negative light. For example saying things like “I knew we were doomed when we had a fight on the honeymoon,” or “I never should have married them in the first place.” This narrative reconstruction makes total sense. Emotional pain, hurt, and betrayal cast a shadow over everything. And now, the marriage is ending, so the story needs to line up in a way that makes that difficult reality make sense. The narrative needs to support the data.

On the flip side, research indicates that happy couples see each other through rose-colored glasses. Not to the point of massive denial. But in a way that skews more positive; in a way that focuses on what is good and plentiful rather than on what is irritating or scarce.

So how does all of this relate to the “right person, wrong time” idea? “Right person, wrong time” is a narrative. It’s a story. A story that likely allows you to let go of that person and shift your focus: 

  • onto yourself
  • onto your healing
  • onto your family crisis
  • onto your work or educational obligation
  • onto the quest for someone with whom there’s an easier or deeper alignment, whatever.

“Right person, wrong time” is a story you’re telling to help make something make sense. It doesn’t need to be air-tight ‘Truth’ with a capital T for it to be functional and helpful. Someone could say, “But what if you delayed grad school for a year to give this relationship a chance,” “But what if you had your mom live closer to you so you have more time to date,” or “But what if you just changed your mindset about your career.” What if? Just because you technically could, that does not mean that you need to. Can does not mean must. And nobody has a crystal ball. You could change all of these variables to try to get the timing right so that you can give this relationship a chance. And the process of shifting variables for the sake of the relationship could create resentment inside of you that could compromise the relationship anyways! 

I want to remind you that if and when you make accommodations in your life for the sake of an intimate relationship, I want you to make that accommodation from a place of choice, willingness, desire, and pride rather than guilt, obligation, embarrassment, or shame—for the sake of your mental health and for the sake of the relationship. Side note that Vienna Pharaon and I did a whole episode of Reimagining Love called, “Relocating for Love: Finding Agency in Accommodation,” that I encourage you to go listen to if this intrigues you.

Developmental Stage

Now, I want to talk about the fact that when someone says “Right person, wrong time,” they might be saying something about their own development as a person; about where they are on their life’s journey. I want to talk about 4 separate but related angles here: 

  1. Your priorities.
  2. Your internal clock.
  3. Your identity.
  4. Your ability to trust yourself.

#1 Your Priorities

In an episode of Reimagining Love, I talked a little about the modern dating landscape; how the age of entry into marriage is older than ever and how there are fewer people married now than ever. This reflects a number of cultural shifts including a seismic gender shift. As women have access to educational and vocational opportunities that were not available to women throughout much of history, women by and large do not do what my mother-in-law did, which was go to college to earn her so-called “MRS” degree. When intimate partnership is no longer the top priority, it means that women, and their partners, need to work within that matrix. 

Sociologist Andrew Cherlin says that marriage used to be a cornerstone of adulthood and it is now a capstone, meaning that older generations used to move from their family’s home into their marital home. Couples traditionally register for things like dishes and comforters because by and large they were creating a nest together from scratch. Commitment to an intimate partnership was the cornerstone of adult life. Today, more people, by choice or necessity, focus time and energy on other domains of life, some that are not very compatible with the energetic demands of intimate partnership. Careers are important; education is important; adventure and travel are important; friendship is important. “Right person, wrong time” might signify that intimacy isn’t at the top of your list right now. Someone might be amazing, but they might not fit into your life… at least not right now. 

#2. Internal Clock

Episode 42 of Reimagining Love was about talking with your partner about the future, and what happens when a couple experiences what I call a “Pace Discrepancy.” This is a term I use for when one partner is ready for the next step toward deepened commitment and the other partner is not. In that episode, I cited Dr. Bearnice Neugarten’s idea that we all have a social clock that gives us a sense of whether we are “on time” or “off time” in terms of developmental milestones or achievements, relative to our peer group. If the internal clock living inside your head says you should be engaged by 28, a partner is going to start looking a lot like a fiancé around that time. So, “right person, wrong time” might speak to a block that lives inside of you. The block may be that you hadn’t seen yourself in a serious relationship at this age; or you hadn’t seen yourself in a serious relationship until you had reached a certain financial goal; or you hadn’t seen yourself in a serious relationship until you met a certain educational milestone. So this person feels good to be with, but you can’t quite get your head and your heart around the fact that this opportunity has presented itself to you at the “wrong” time.

#3. Identity

The timing question may relate to your sense of your own identity in these ways:

  • how you imagined you’d feel on your inside when you entered into this type of relationship
  • How ‘adult’ you had imagined you’d feel
  • How secure you had imagined you’d feel
  • How healed you had imagined you’d be

Here’s what I will say about this question of identity and this sense that you don’t feel the way you imagined someone should feel when they are making this type of commitment. I have lived a lot of years and I have done a lot of things and rarely, if ever, have I felt 100% rock solid on the inside when starting a new chapter. My goal is to feel more intrigue than fear and more confidence than self-doubt, but I don’t wait around for 100%. First, because I tend to run anxious. Second, because how could you feel totally sure about a territory you’ve never entered before. Even if you have dated seriously before or been engaged before or been married before, you have not been here with this person at this particular moment in your life. This crossroad you’re at is new. Feeling unsure does not mean that you are developmentally not ready. A lot of stuff in life requires us to build the parachute on the way down. A lot of stuff in life starts to feel like “us” or our identity precisely because we show up for it and do it over and over. And our identity shifts bit by bit as we do it.

 I remember when our son, Brian, was about two weeks old, Todd and I went to the mall. I was buying something at the Gap, and Brian was in the stroller. The woman who was ringing me up asked me my baby’s name, etc. I finished my transaction, and I started to walk away, pushing the stroller, but without my purchase (on account of the sleep deprivation). The woman started calling after me, “Brian’s mom… Brian’s mom.” She had to say it a few times to get my attention because I was only like fourteen days into being “Brian’s mom.” That identity didn’t fully feel like me yet. 

Be clear: I am not advocating that you bypass a clear no that is rumbling around inside of you; I am just inviting you to feel your way into the idea that there are shades of gray between a clear no at one extreme and a sense of “oh, I can’t because I am not at the right age or stage.”

#4. Your ability to trust yourself

When you’re deepening into commitment, you also need to be able to see yourself as someone who can be trusted to make decisions; that you are both developmentally at a point in your life where you can prioritize intimacy and that you are someone who can be trusted to make good choices for themselves. I have this very distinct memory and I think of it every time I am on this one particular corner of downtown Chicago: I was in grad school, and Todd and I were dating seriously by that point. I was on a run by myself, reflecting on our relationship and whether and when we’d move toward getting engaged. And I got one of those lightning bolt realizations that I was more afraid of life without him than I was about life with him. And it was a clarifying moment—so clarifying that all of these years later, I think of it whenever we’re in that area. Was I scared of making this kind of a commitment—not just to him but to anyone? Yes. Was it hard to see myself as someone who was at a place in their life to make a commitment of this magnitude? Yes. But stepping into this kind of commitment was less scary than the alternative. I’m bringing this up not to make a point about age but about the fact that in order to commit to Todd, I had to feel trustworthy within myself. And that took me some time… and lots and lots and lots of therapy!

Deeper fears or wounds that might be closing us off to intimacy

When someone says, “Right person, wrong time,” they might also be saying that they are at a place in their healing journey where intimacy simply cannot be the priority because deep internal healing is—therefore, pausing your dating life so you can heal can be a way of honoring your capacity, not an avoidance; a way of turning your attention inward.

I always want your healing work to be, first and foremost, for you but then also for the benefit of the people who get the privilege of loving you. I therefore hope that your pause is just that: a pause. I hope that you keep checking in with yourself about when it might feel good and affirming to begin to date again, as a way of practicing new skills and as a way of highlighting to yourself that you have the ability to make new, different, healthier choices for yourself. Dating at some point then becomes an arena for you to walk the talk.

Trusting the Universe

Let’s move on and talk about what happens if you decide to end a relationship because it’s feeling to you like this is a “right person, wrong time.” For all of the reasons we have just talked through, timing matters. And because it matters, that is reason enough to move along. This cannot be the “right” person for you if the timing is not right for your life. As some people say, “right person, wrong time = wrong person.” You can appreciate this relationship for what it was. Not every relationship has to end with toxicity and tragedy. A relationship can end because of timing.

If and when that is the road you choose, I hope you will let yourself grieve—grieve the loss of this person, for sure, but also grieve that simplistic or innocent sense that love, on its own, is enough. Whenever we step from a more black-and-white view of the world into a more nuanced view of the world, there’s a shattering, or a loss. Yes, it’s a loss that is replaced with something sturdier and wiser, but it’s a loss nonetheless. Let yourself feel that.

It is by grieving that we open up space for something else, and I hope that something else is a sense of trust in the timing of your life. That your journey gets to unfold in ways you cannot see but in ways that are going to offer you lessons; lessons that help you evolve and lessons that help you support other people on their journeys. For some of you, your faith might be a resource here. For others of you, your spiritual practices might be a resource for you, your sense of being connected to everything and everyone, your sense that the universe has your back. This, by the way, is a spiritual idea but it is also a psychological idea. For some of us, our Core Wound from childhood is that we feel like we have to do it all. It’s all on our shoulders. Some of us are at risk of over-functioning, taking too much responsibility, and having a very hard time letting go of control. For people like this, our Growing Edge is letting go, releasing control, and giving stuff over to the universe, for the sake of our sanity. This, by the way, has been a biggie for me in my life, so I speak from a place of knowing. 

Here’s a Relational Self-Awareness question for you: What might be different for you if you were able to trust the timing of your life? If you opt to journal on this question, think about your thoughts, your feelings, and your behaviors.

By the way, I don’t think our faith or our spiritual practices mean that we passively wait for the universe to line everything up for us. I suspect, because you are reading this blog post, that you don’t either. We can be expanding our Relational Self-Awareness (through podcasts, and books, and therapy), and we can be engaging in new kinds of conversations with the people in our lives. It’s not either or: either I trust the universe or I try to figure everything out on my own. It is a both/and:  

  • Both faith and self-work
  • Both trust and healing
  • Both allowing and engaging

If you decide that “right person, wrong time” means that you end this relationship or situationship, I also want you to trust the universe that when the timing is more aligned, you will be able to create a really lovely intimate relationship with an available partner at that point. If you end a relationship with someone where the feeling is “right person, wrong time,” there’s a risk of idealizing that relationship. In any breakup, idealization is a risk. Why? Because human memory is notoriously fallible and selective. It can be easier to remember the good stuff as the painful feelings soften or the stuck feeling fades. Even more so if your breakup narrative is a “right person, wrong time” one. Nothing was “wrong” with them, so to speak. Something was wrong with the timing. So, here’s what I want to remind you:

  1. Lousy timing counts: It’s not a made up thing. It’s a contextual factor that holds power, enough power in fact to block the ability for an intimate relationship to take root and grow. You may find it helpful to write a letter to yourself during a moment when you are clear that you need to move along because the timing just isn’t working for you; refer to that letter when a wave of sadness or regret hits.
  2. Ruminating on “what if” is a dead end road: What if I wasn’t in grad school? What if I had gotten therapy earlier? What if I had handled my last breakup better? Spiritual teacher Byron Katie says, “What I argue with reality, I lose, but only 100% of the time.” When you catch yourself arguing with reality, come back to this moment—ground yourself right here right now. What do you see? What do you hear? What do you feel? Run your hands under cold water. Get up and move. Head into nature. Deep breaths. Work with a mantra like, “I trust the unfolding of my journey.”
  3. Timing, by its very definition, is temporary: I have every confidence that there will be a time when intimate partnership will be easier to prioritize. And when that happens, your job will be to savor and celebrate the person who gets to love you at that time—not in comparison to the person you lost to lousy timing, but on their own merits. You are learning and growing and evolving every single day. As you heal yourself ,you create the capacity to see and appreciate someone for who they are. Your Relational Self-Awareness is going to help you focus on the person in front of you, not the person you needed to let go of because of timing. You may be afraid now that nobody else will measure up to the person you are losing because of timing, but that’s only true if you measure your next person on the metric of your last person. And how unfair is that? You deserve to be loved for all of the qualities YOU are showing up with. Therefore, they do too! 
  4. If you catch yourself thinking, “What if that was the best I ever had?,” label that for what it is, a fear-loaded thought: In fact, because the timing was off, they could therefore NOT be the best you will ever have. Trust that when you are in a sturdier place for intimacy, that more aligned timing is going to be an asset to you and this new partner. The more aligned timing is going to help you and that person build a relationship founded on trust, appreciation, and growth. Fear is always welcome because all feelings are welcome, but fear does not get to drive the bus. You deserve to celebrate your future relationship on its own metric, not versus the last metric.

When someone says it to you

If you’re in the early stages of dating someone, or in a situationship with someone, and they proclaim “right person, wrong time” to you, I can imagine this stirs up lots of feelings. Sadness and disappointment that this relationship may very well not be viable. Confusion and frustration that something you have been thinking is going well is maybe not going to continue. Maybe even shame. For some of us, feelings like sadness and confusion have a way of morphing into shame. Rather than, “I am disappointed in this outcome” we slip into, “something is wrong with me.” If this lands for you, deep breath and hand on your heart. See if you can feel into the sadness, disappointment, confusion, and frustration without letting the arrow bend back toward you. When we feel helpless, we are particularly at risk of seeking a reason why, even if that “why” means that we throw ourselves under the bus so to speak, “If I was prettier/smarter/richer/funnier whatever,” they would have prioritized our relationship. Please be gentle with yourself.

If someone tells you that you are the right person at the wrong time, it for sure could be a “cover story” or an excuse. They might be stringing you along, keeping you engaged enough that you are an option but not so engaged that you are an obligation. 

If someone tells you that you are the “right person, wrong time,” as if it is a full explanation of why things won’t work out between you, that person may very well have just bumped up against the ceiling of their Relational Self-Awareness. They cannot give you more insight or explanation than what they have available to themselves. If saying “right person, wrong time,” feels adequate to them, there likely isn’t more that they can access given their current degree of healing or depth of insight. They very well might lack motivation, ability, or interest to work on themselves and explore what’s getting in the way. That is sad and it is frustrating—and it is fully the case that you can’t make someone else do their work. Way back in Episode #2 of Reimagining Love, I talked about inviting a reluctant partner into relationship work, so you could tune into that oldie-but-goodie for some ways that you could encourage that person to grow their Relational Self-Awareness—but just remember that you can’t force it.

If someone tells you that you are the right person, wrong time, but you want to offer patience while they work their stuff out, here are a few reminders:

  1. Agree to check-ins: What’s the interval at which you will check in about what is shifting inside of them and between the two of you? That interval should be a sweet spot that gives them space to figure themselves out while giving you assurance and access as you practice patience.
  2. Be clear about what is in bounds and out of bounds as you wait: Are you dating other people? Are you seeing each other? How often? Are you sexually intimate during this time? If this person can’t or won’t make agreements with you about how to navigate this in between time, they are showing you that they are struggling to be relational. Keep checking in with yourself about what you are giving up or ignoring in order to make this situation work.
  3. Feel into the difference between patience that feels like pride and patience that feels like self-abandonment: Can you ask for what you need? Are they curious about how you are holding up? Are they expressing gratitude for your patience (not that you’re a hero or a martyr but that they can see you’re extending yourself in order to give this relationship a shot).

Conclusion

We did it!! I took 4 little words, “Right person, wrong time” and turned it into a juicy discussion! Wow. I hope this article gives you some new insights. I hope this discussion opens up new conversations with the people you love. I hope this supports you on your journey. Until next time, be well.

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