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We cannot be held responsible for the families we’re born into. We cannot be held responsible for our temperaments. Some of us were fussy-ass babies who grew into high-strung adults. We cannot be held responsible for many of life’s curveballs, disappointments, and losses.⁣
But, whether we like it or not, we bring the past into our intimate relationships. Our baggage shapes our behavior and our expectations of ourselves and each other. Some of us resist looking at what love stirs within us and between us because:⁣
* it makes us feel vulnerable ⁣
* we think it’s tantamount to blaming our parents or letting ourselves off the hook⁣
* looking forward, not back, is the only way we’ve known how to survive⁣.
A team of 86 relationship scholars, who analyzed data from 11,000 couples, using 43 distinct data sets, shared their fascinating findings with the world in 2020. Here’s an essential piece for you to understand:
The whole is bigger than the sum of the parts.⁣
My Stuff + Your Stuff = Our Stuff ⁣
(what I call the Golden Equation of Love).⁣
When these researchers looked at relationship satisfaction, RELATIONAL DYNAMICS counted more than INDIVIDUAL CHARACTERISTICS.⁣
It’s the HOW that matters. How the two of you “dance” with each other. Specifically:⁣
1. Perceived partner commitment⁣
2. Appreciation⁣
3. Sexual satisfaction⁣
4. Perceived partner satisfaction⁣
5. Conflict⁣
The more willing each of you are to understand and be responsible for what you’re bringing into the relationship, the healthier the dynamic will be. Understanding yourself helps you deepen into commitment, allow yourself to share and receive appreciation, stay present and connected for love-making, and navigate the inevitable bumps in the road. ⁣
It’s not about holding out for some fairy tale moment when your baggage is finally fixed and you happen upon a twin flame who travels unencumbered by any of their own stuff.
It’s not about finding someone who ticks your boxes. ⁣
It’s about finding someone who can be real with you, who can care for you, and who can receive your care.⁣
Here’s to unpacking bravely. 🧳 💗

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