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Loving Bravely

Real love starts with you

Real love starts with you. In order to attract a life partner and build a healthy intimate relationship, you must first become a good partner to yourself. This book offers twenty invaluable lessons that will help you explore and commit to your own emotional and psychological well-being so you can be ready, resilient, and confident in love.

Many of us enter into romantic relationships full of expectation and hope, only to be sorely disappointed by the realization that the partner we’ve selected is a flawed human being with their own neuroses, history, and desires. Most relationships end because one or both people haven’t done the internal work necessary to develop self-awareness and take responsibility for their own experiences. We’ve all heard “You can’t love anyone unless you love yourself,” but amid life’s distractions and the myth of perfect, romantic love, how exactly do you do that?

In Loving Bravely, psychologist, professor and relationship expert Alexandra H. Solomon introduces the idea of relational self-awareness, encouraging you to explore your personal history to gain an understanding of your own relational patterns, as well as your strengths and weaknesses in relationships. By doing so, you’ll learn what relationships actually require, beyond the fairytale notions of romance. And by maintaining a steady but gentle focus on yourself, you’ll build the best possible foundation for making a loving connection.

By understanding your past relationship experiences, cultivating a strong sense of self-awareness, and determining what it is you really want in a romantic partner—you’ll be ready to find the healthy, lasting love your heart desires.

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As modern dating increasingly gets reduced to a narrow set of online search algorithms, Alexandra Solomon wisely implores readers to turn off the noise, tune into our authentic selves and cultivate a deeper sense of relational self-awareness. Loving Bravely will show how you how to go beyond merely swiping left or right, scrolling up and down, and instead live and love in way that’s true to your unique multi-dimensional self.
Ian Kerner, PhD LMFTNew York Times best-selling author
She doesn’t preach that love is perfect—”core issues will get stirred up again and again in intimate relationships”—but guides readers with 20 lessons accompanied by sets of exercises through which they learn to explore and create healthy boundaries, listen to their gut instincts, and forgive themselves and others. The tone of the book is empowering and compassionate, and its lessons are universal.
Publishers Weekly
What a wonderful exploration into the language of intimacy, relationships, and love! In this deeply insightful book, you will be exposed to the key ingredients of an intimate relationship: self-love, self-worth, and self-awareness. I highly recommend this book to anyone interested in engaging in life and love in an empowered way!
Shefali Tsabary, PhDNew York Times bestselling author
Alexandra H. Solomon has written a clear-eyed, practical guidebook on nothing less than how to love. Loving Bravely covers everything from how to shift beyond your own reactivity to how to offer an effective apology. Years of clinical experience shine through a book I’d recommend to anyone interested in loving well.
Terry Realfounder of the Relational Life Institute in Massachusetts, and author of The New Rules of Marriage
This is a powerful book that beautifully lays out the path to having a healthier love relationship with others, by first having a healthier love relationship with yourself. Written in an engaging manner and full of practical exercises, this book is a godsend to anyone searching for, but struggling to find, true love in their lives.
Kristin Neff, PhDassociate professor in the department of educational psychology at The University of Texas at Austin, and author of Self-Compassion
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Taking Sexy Back

It is time for a new sexual revolution. It’s time to take sexy back!

The very notion of sexual pleasure has long been hijacked from women. Today’s sexual climate leaves little to no space for honoring the complexities of sex—sex as pleasure, sex as connection, sex as creative expression, sex as communication, and sex as healing. This is particularly true for young women navigating today’s dating world, who need to be able to identify which sexual choices feel authentic, pleasurable, and joyful, and which ones leave them feeling “less-than.” In Taking Sexy Back, relationship expert Alexandra Solomon—author of Loving Bravely—offers a powerful and holistic approach to help you reclaim your sexuality, communicate your desires, draw boundaries, be safe, and build the satisfying relationships you truly want. Regardless of your current relationship status, you’ll learn to cultivate your own sexual self-awareness and use that awareness to create sexual experiences that elevate, connect, expand, and heal you. Sex is about more than what your partner enjoys or finds sexy. It’s about more than having an orgasm or finding the “right” positions. This book offers a road map to help you reclaim your sexual power. It offers time and space to think and feel, and to ask yourself the important question—what do you want?
Psychologist Solomon (Loving Bravely) empowers and enlightens in this manual that encourages women to accept and control their sexuality… Like a wise older sister or a trusted friend, Solomon illustrates how to move from fear to love with meditations, creative writing (‘write an erotic short story’), and mental exercises (ask, ‘at which point in the day do you feel most connected to Your Sexy’). She also tackles the topic of sexual traumas and the poison they inject into relationships, and encourages experimentation and sexual fantasies as tools to learn one’s own sexuality. ‘Joyful sex rests on risk, self-compassion, and trust,” she writes. Solomon proves to be a savvy, empathetic voice in this educational and inspiring guide.
Publishers Weekly
Instead of striving to be sexy to fulfill the desires of others, women need to explore their own sexuality, writes Solomon (psychology, Northwestern Univ.; Loving Bravely) in this deep dive into the messages most women hear about sex growing up. The author advises readers to turn the “I shoulds” to “I want” and shows women how to be mindfully present during sex and to create situations with their partners that are safe and playful. While concentrating on sexy as a state of mind, Solomon also addresses the physical and erotic components of intercourse. VERDICT A welcome read for women looking to explore more adventurous, impassioned sexual lives.
Library Journal
Taking Sexy Back is going directly on my top list of recommended sexuality readings. Not only did I learn a lot but I so enjoyed the ease, directness and warmth with which Solomon guides us to deeper sexual and relational self-awareness. An offer we can’t refuse!
Esther Perel, LMFTNew York Times bestselling author
In these enlightening and powerful pages, Alexandra Solomon provides a clear path to thinking about our sexuality in the context of our psyches, our relationships, and our pleasure. There are countless books on relationships and countless books on sexuality, but never have I seen a book that asks us to examine our sexual lives in such a holistic, empowering, and eye-opening way. This is a rare and life-changing gift for women everywhere.
Lori Gottlieb New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
When the next sexual revolution comes, this book will certainly be among its founding documents. It takes the best parts of what psychology has learned about love and sex, and distills them to their simplest human essence. Love and sex, as the author notes, are a powerful and ancient magic, and this book will do much to help the next generation of women claim more of this magic for themselves.
Stephen Snyder, MDhost of the Relationship Doctor podcast on Macmillan Publishers’ QDT Network, and author of Love Worth Making
In Alexandra Solomon’s book, Taking Sexy Back, she asks us to dig deep, to look beyond our assumptions, to shift from being sexualized to being sexual, and to find our erotic selves under years of cultural repression. This book helps women to reclaim their inherent right to their sexuality, which we all need as we move into the next wave of empowering ourselves, fighting for our right to feel pleasure in our own bodies—without guilt, shame, or remorse. I will pass Solomon’s wise advice on to my own daughter.
Tammy Nelson, PhDcertified sex and relationship therapist, and author of Getting the Sex You Want and The New Monogamy
Have you ever wished you knew someone that combined the intimacy of your best friend with the skills and competency of a PhD in psychology? Someone who could support you on the road to creating a wildly fulfilling sex life—both with yourself and your partner(s)? This book will change your life, open doors, and allow you to own every drop of the hot, sexy woman you were born to become.
Regena Thomashauer (aka Mama Gena)founder and CEO of The School of Womanly Arts at www.mamagenas.com, and New York Times bestselling author of Pussy
Chock-full of poignant real-life stories, scientific data presented in an accessible format, and questions to provoke deeper thinking, Taking Sexy Back is what every woman needs to set her on the path to sexual empowerment and fulfillment. It is the only book of its kind written in a wonderfully inclusive way, encompassing the experiences of those who identify as straight, lesbian, bisexual, cisgender, gender-queer, monogamous, nonmonogamous, and more. Solomon’s passion and compassion for women’s sexual discovery shines through. I will be recommending this book to students, clients, and friends for years to come.
Laurie Mintz, PhDprofessor in the department of psychology at the University of Florida, and author of A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex and Becoming Cliterate
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Are you ready to take Loving Bravely to the next level? Curious about how to really integrate these teachings into your life and relationships? We’re launching a private Facebook group for Loving Bravely readers! Join for weekly prompts, challenges, and assignments based on the ideas in Loving Bravely, monthly Q&As with Alexandra and other guest speakers, and curated articles and resources to guide you on your journey!

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