We generally assume that long-term partners sleep in the same bed together. But for some couples, sleep issues or other concerns make it hard for two people to get a good night’s rest. “Sleep divorces” are more common than you might think, but the stigma about them remains. In this episode, Dr. Solomon shares tips for how to discuss sleeping arrangements with your partner.

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Marital quality and the marital bed: Examining the covariation between relationship quality and sleep (NIH)

Wendy M. Troxel, Ph.D., Theodore F. Robles, Ph.D., Martica Hall, Ph.D., and Daniel J. Buysse

The Bizarre Social History of Beds What We Did in Bed: A Horizontal History by Brian Fagan and Nadia Durrani

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