A phrase we’ve been hearing a lot lately, especially in the dating world, and I’m sure you have as well is “If they wanted to, they would.” In today’s episode, Dr Solomon will look at the kinds of fears and beliefs that lead people to stick the “if they wanted to they would” label on a relationship dynamic. You’ll also lean into what might be happening in a dynamic that would lead you to declare “if they wanted to, they would” and what else you might do besides stick this label on and walk away. 

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